Text Chemistry

I waited many years after my spouse died before I started dating a good woman, who's divorcing a jerky guy. For 2 months, we've had dinner together a couples times a week. We stay static in touch every day by texting, "Miss You," or "Have some fun today."

 

Yesterday, I kept my cell off while I spent the afternoon and had dinner with clients. Later I saw she'd sent me a large number of Text Chemistry asking what was wrong and saying she doesn't like to be ignored.

 

I immediately called her to state that nothing was wrong and I wasn't ignoring her. She said if I truly cared about her, I might have answered her texts instead of torturing her with my silence. She said she wasn't sure she wanted to see me again as a result of this.

 

I'm confused. I enjoyed her until she freaked out over 1 day far from texting. Can I give you her texts to help you figure out what happened?

 

DATING ANSWER BY HADLEY FINCH:

 

There's no need to read her texts, because this is a common example of how people misinterpret texts and texting behavior every day. Want to avoid these misunderstandings as time goes by?

 

Then stop texting your date, except to talk about logistics, like you're running late or changing plans to meet up her. You could declare that from now on, you'd like to stay in touch by phone or face-to-face, not by texting.

 

I'd like to indicate some dating red flags in this texting scenario. As soon as your date sent you a large number of worried texts while you had been unreachable, she unwittingly revealed an obsessive dependence on your attention. This isn't attractive nor emotionally healthy, especially since you've only known one another a short time.

 

Granted, she might glom on and be extra needy because she's dealing with a divorce. That's why I recommend that you delay dating seriously until you've been divorced a year.

 

This gives you solitary time to regain your emotional stability and learn your love lessons for your role in the breakup so that you do not repeat them in your following Text Chemistry. She's clearly not carrying this out emotional work, if she blames her divorce on her jerky husband.

 

So keep your eyes open to see in the event that you really want to join this woman on her journey through divorce. Should you, then buckle up for an uneven ride.

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You're further along on the way to recovery 36 months after losing your wife. As you are new to dating, be aware of where a potential match is on that path from lost love to the fire of love. Will their attitudes and actions allow you to study from joy or turbulence?

 

You've just experienced turbulence over texting. You should use this dating chemistry test and others to find out if your date is emotionally equipped to generate the type of dating relationship you desire.